How To Deal With Criticism

Criticism isn’t easy to deal with even when it’s constructive.

Changing my mindset has helped me. I don’t want to be defensive or reactionary every time someone gives me feedback. That’s not the best attitude to have.

Besides, constructive criticism helps me improve and get better. I should listen to others, especially when they offer suggestions I wouldn’t have thought of on my own.

I try not to take any comments about my work personally. That’s obviously easier said than done, but more often than not, no one is attacking me. They’re just making a statement about my story.

I tend to seek out people I respect. I’m much more open to their opinions if I look up to them.

But when I receive feedback from a stranger or someone I don’t like, I do my best to see where s/he is coming from. After all, nobody has the same experiences as me.

What’s more, we can learn something from everyone, which is why I want to hear from different voices.

That said, I still filter. Not every remark is useful or helpful. The negative comments that serve no purpose are best ignored, forgotten.

Ultimately, I want to keep improving. There’s always room for improvement. I’m not perfect. I haven’t mastered everything, and I never will.

It’s important to hear people out whenever they provide helpful feedback. I’ll take what works and apply it to my own work. I can throw away what doesn’t.

At the end of the day, constructive criticism is part of life.

6 thoughts on “How To Deal With Criticism

  1. This is a great topic, Herminia. I wish we could find another word besides ‘criticism’ or even ‘critique.’ What we’re hearing isn’t necessarily about us or our writing. It’s sometimes about the person giving us feedback. One of the most difficult things for me has been to hear people out, sift through what they say or (better) write down for me, change what I decide I want to change, and leave the rest the way it is. Not easy, yet as you say, necessary if we want to grow and get a sense of how people hear us. Yuck. I wish sometimes it weren’t so! 🙂


    1. My thoughts exactly. I don’t like the words critique or criticism. I think there are some negative connotations associated with them as well. I know what you mean. I’ve been there many times. As long as we do our best, I think we’ll be okay. Haha, sane here.

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  2. I see a book almost as a physical structure. You’d consult someone on how to build a house so how can anyone think they can put together thousands of words without a few mistakes? That being said I receive criticism better than I give it because I tend to come off as numb to their feelings.


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