Personal Reflection

On Living In The Present Moment

Yesterday is over. Tomorrow isn’t here yet. All we have is today. And And even though right now may not be great or even good, we only have this very moment.

I tend to jump between obsessing over the past or worrying about the future instead of focussing on the present.

It’s not easy to be here. It’s easier to look back at the past when the now gets too difficult, believing things were simpler back then. Or to look ahead, hoping circumstances will get better.

The present moment isn’t usually so bad. In the moment, conditions seem worse than they are.

I concentrate so much on small details that don’t even matter rather than looking at the bigger picture.

While I love what I do, I’m not always present when writing or reading. I try to be, but some days, I get distracted by my own thoughts. Working on a story that excites me or curling up with a great book helps.

I don’t meditate much these days. I do want to be more mindful though. I think there are times where it’s OK to reflect on yesterday or last year. Likewise, it’s fine to anticipate the days and months to come.

I feel like the older I get, the harder it is to live fully in the present. When life gets busier, it’s even harder to enjoy the moment. I think more about arriving at my destination than appreciating my journey.

I want to slow down or even stop at times. I can’t drop everything, but a day or two away won’t hurt.

I ought to relax, take my time. I have a tendency to rush through everything. Then again, I believe some things can’t be rushed. Art, for example. At the very least, they shouldn’t be.

I’m trying my best to live in the present moment. I’ll never get another moment just like it, so I need to make the most of today.

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Personal Reflection

25 Things I Would Tell My 18 Year Old Self

  1. Have an open mind.
  2. Don’t be so cynical.
  3. Life will work out.
  4. You’re not perfect.
  5. Never assume anything.
  6. Give others the benefit of the doubt.
  7. Love yourself first.
  8. You aren’t missing out.
  9. Enjoy the little things.
  10. Be aware of your surroundings.
  11. Stop jumping to conclusions.
  12. Learn from the best.
  13. Write bad first drafts.
  14. Editing is everything.
  15. Read what you want.
  16. Dance full out.
  17. Blog for yourself.
  18. Journal often.
  19. Try to forgive.
  20. People change.
  21. Show up.
  22. Have something to show.
  23. Keep your promises.
  24. Be early.
  25. Continue to improve.
Personal Reflection

When You Feel Like You Aren’t Good Enough

You are. You’re enough.

Pick yourself up and brush off the dust. This journey is your own. But that doesn’t mean you’re alone. Someone cares. You might not think anyone does, but there is a person out there.

You always want to do more. But you only have 24 hours in the day. You can’t accomplish everything in one night. After all, no one is an overnight success.

Sometimes you feel lost. Then again, you’re finding your way just like everyone else.

No matter how long you’ve been doing something, you’re still learning all the time.

You don’t want to settle, so it’s difficult to feel satisfied. Make sure you celebrate small wins because they lead to bigger victories.

The world isn’t fair. Life isn’t fair. All the more reason to be kind to yourself.

You’ve set the bar so high. So you keep reaching and falling short. One day, you will reach the stars. You’ll be higher than you’ve ever been before.

In an age where everything seems to happen instantaneously, it can be hard to be patient. You might want to quit. You’ll wonder if your destination is worth it. Trust your instincts.

Focus on the process, not the product. Concentrate on the things you can control. Don’t worry about what you can’t.

Look ahead. Move on. Imagine a better future.

Live a life you will not regret. Sometimes you only have one chance.

When you fail, remember you’re one step closer to success. None of your mistakes are in vain if you learn from them.

Drown out the noise, the negativity. Surround yourself around positive people.

Support others because beneath our differences, we’re all the same in the end.

You are good enough.

Personal Reflection

6 Pieces Of Advice For My Future Self

  1. Stop apologizing all the time. Sure, say sorry if you messed up. But if you haven’t, you don’t need to beg for anyone’s forgiveness.
  2. Aim for comprehension, not completion. It isn’t always enough to do an assignment if you don’t understand anything.
  3. Do what you want to do. Within reason of course. I’ve come to terms with the fact that I don’t want to do certain things.
  4. Don’t be afraid to change your ways. Especially if something isn’t working. I’m so stubborn. I’ll stick to old habits and routines even if I know there’s a better way. I’m allowed to grow. I’m supposed to.
  5. Never try to do everything. Pick and choose wisely. There isn’t enough time to do it all.
  6. You’re human. Your body needs adequate rest, proper nutrition, frequent exercise. If I take care of my health, other areas of my life seem to work out. I am trying to be more aware of my body and mind. I’m listening more. I’m learning too. I may not be perfect, but I try to get better. Which is all that matters.
Personal Reflection · Productivity

How I’m Trying To Live Better

I wanted to try to live better, so I’ve been doing the following:

Walk more. Specifically in the morning. When I was in school, I did a lot of walking. Even though I’m not taking nearly as many steps now, I hate the thought of sitting at home all day long. So now I walk and listen to a podcast at the same time.

Floss every night. It took a while to build this habit. For a time, I didn’t. Then I would but forget on occasion or get lazy. Now I’m finally flossing right after I brush my teeth.

Stay hydrated. I drank so little water in high school, I was probably close to being dehydrated half the time. I pay greater attention my liquid consumption these days, especially as the weather warms up.

Go to bed earlier. I think sleeping has been one of my biggest challenges. I have a hard time falling asleep and staying asleep. As I get busier, I find myself sleeping later. I have a morning routine, but I don’t have much of a night routine. Once upon a time, I slept earlier and woke up at a decent time. I’m doing my best to do that on a consistent basis.

Practice mindfulness. I’m not perfect, but I like living in the moment as much as possible. I put my phone away while I’m eating. I also check in with myself throughout the day when I have some time.

Even though I feel like I haven’t been that productive, I have been living a better life. And that’s something I’ll take every day.

Personal Reflection

Life Is Too Short To Not Live And Love

I want to live a life I’m proud of living. I’m not perfect. My life isn’t either. But I try to appreciate what I have and who I am.

I feel as if I’ve grown up a lot this year. I’m also growing older.

The girl who started this blog in 2013 has come a long way. That being said, I still have a long way to go.

Some days, I look back and see how far I’ve come. I also look forward, knowing the road ahead won’t be an easy one.

Maybe I’m being melodramatic. It wouldn’t be the first time. But I feel like I’ve been given a second chance at life. And I don’t want to waste the time remaining.

Recently, I’ve been grappling with the following question: is it better to have loved and lost than never love at all?

As much as I hate losing, I’d rather love and lose than never love. Even if 10 months from now, I don’t love anymore. That’s OK. We grow. We outgrow too.

Life is too short to never love, to always hate. I think in order to live and love, we have to take risks. I’d like to be able to live fearlessly.

Maybe we lose what’s wrong in order to find what’s right.

Personal Reflection

What Do You Want Out Of Life?

I want to be happy. I hope I’m able to do what I want to do.

My health is important to me. But sometimes I do things at the expense of my well-being.

Even though I worry so much about so many things, writing helps. When there’s nothing to stress over, my mind makes something up. At least getting my thoughts and feelings on the page takes some of the weight off my shoulders.

This year has been tough for reasons out of my control. So I’ve tried hard to focus on what I can control.

Word by word, day by day is my motto. I don’t want to get too far ahead of myself. Sometimes though I can’t stop thinking about the far future.

I like to believe everything will work out somehow. The pieces will fall into place eventually.

For now, I want to concentrate on the present moment. I need to enjoy each day.

I love what I do because I love the act of doing them. It’s the process, the journey that matters. Not the numbers, not the results.

While I don’t know everything, I know I want to learn. Even if it terrifies me. I want to learn more. I want to better myself as a human being.

I’m always learning. I love teaching myself. Going at my own pace, putting in a little bit of work every day.

Personal Reflection

What Will I Be Doing Over The Summer?

If only I knew. I don’t even know what I’ll be doing tomorrow.

Reading

I want to read every day. How much will depend on whether my friends want me to leave the house and socialize. Shudder.

Reviewing

I enjoy posting book reviews. They take time to write and edit, so bear with me.

Writing

I have so many ideas, but I haven’t fully fleshed out any just yet. I’m working on creative pieces to submit to various places.

Blogging

I’m a bad blogger during the school year. Not that I’m any better over the summer. Let this year be the year I stop procrastinating and start posting earlier in the day. It hasn’t happened yet unfortunately.

Dancing

I have every intention to dance often. I also tend to stretch before and exercise after.

Let me what you’re doing this summer in the comments below. I’d love to know.