Personal Reflection

Make Time For Yourself

You have to make time for yourself. It’s okay to look out for your best interests. It’s all right to take all the time you need.

Do what you need to do, whatever that means for you.

There’s nothing wrong with being alone, being by yourself.

We’re more connected than ever before thanks to cell phones and social media. Sometimes it’s hard to put technology down and not stare at a screen all the time. That being said, human connection is necessary.

You’re a human being. Believe it or not, I’m human too.

You aren’t a machine. You need to interact and communicate with others. But know your limits. Remember them when you need to put your foot down.

Don’t be afraid to listen to your heart and your head. Because at the end of the day, you have to make yourself happy.

People respect you if you respect yourself first. At least, the people who respect themselves will. It’s tough though. But you live and learn. That’s how life goes.

Some people might not understand. Don’t worry about them. Worry about yourself.

Do what sets your soul on fire, even if you were the last person on earth.

What’s something you look forward to? What’s something you love more than anything else in the world?

Never let excuses run or ruin your life. You only have so much time.

Hold onto your values, your beliefs. Only change for the better.

Make time for yourself, so you can take care of yourself.

Personal Reflection

A Much Needed Self Care PSA

Any day is a good day for a self care public service announcement. I know I’ve talked about taking care of yourself in the past, but I’m talking about it again because I’m a broken record.

I don’t care what season it is (baseball or winter). Remember to prioritize your needs, whatever they may be.

Say no if you need to. Fun fact that isn’t fun but it is a fact: I said no to prom. If I can, you certainly can.

Don’t forget to eat and exercise. Do the things you want. Read a book. Listen to music. Make time for your hobbies, interests.

Let’s also talk about drinking and driving. To be honest, I do not enjoy either one individually.

That being said, if you ever feel pressured to drink and you hate it as much as I do, put your foot down. This is your body. You know yourself best. Do what you want, not what someone else wants.

Don’t feel up to drive? Then don’t force the issue. Take a bus, a cab. Call a friend or family member. Listen to your gut. It knows what’s up.

Self care isn’t just about luxury either. You don’t need to go to a spa or a saloon. You can take a bath or do your nails at home.

Sometimes it’s the little things that make a big difference like going to the gym in the morning, going to bed earlier at night, etc.

I hope you treat yourself well in 2018. Don’t forget you have one life. One body, one heart.

You may be busy with work or school or a number of other obligations, but you’re not too busy to care about yourself and look after your health.

Personal Reflection

Take Care Of Yourself

When I’m not feeling well, I’m torn between doing nothing so I can rest or doing everything in hopes I’ll get better because I’ve been productive.

A part of me knows I’m allowed take a day off from writing or blogging. But another part wants to persevere. The latter wins out more often than not.

I compromised. I didn’t force myself to go above and beyond. Even though I didn’t want to do too much, I did a little. I’ll take it. Some progress is better than none.

My head hurt. It was especially painful to be inverted. So while dancing I tried to keep upright as much as possible. Although I hate feeling ill, I like rebounding from a bad day or three. Knowing I took it easy even out of necessity motivates me to try harder when I’m feeling better.

Unless I’m beyond saving, I won’t nap during the day. I don’t know why. I think my body doesn’t know how to fall asleep in the middle of the afternoon. I could feel awful, and I’d still be awake.

I shouldn’t be hard on myself. I am human after all. Obviously, I would’ve liked to do more. But why work myself until I burn out?

I’m reminded of baseball. It’s easier and better to give athletes a day off even when they don’t need one. It’s worse to push professional athletes to the point where they get injured, only letting them rest too little too late. They’ll take longer to recover from an injury then.

Better to give someone a break before they break something.

I never know if my analogies or examples make sense to anyone not named Herminia Chow. But if you need a sign to take a break and relax a bit, here it is.

Do what you can to prevent yourself from getting injured or ill. Prevention beats cure any day of the year.

Control the things you can. And deal with what you can’t. Always be kind to yourself because if you aren’t, who will be?

Personal Reflection

Forgiving And Forgetting

I don’t know why I find forgiving so hard. But I do.

And even though I can forgive, I know I won’t forget anytime soon.

I forgot how tough it is to hold a grudge. To be mad. To feel angry. 

It’s even tougher to not forgive or forget.

But maybe I can forgive because I care. About myself. About the other person. About our relationship. And maybe one day I’ll be able to forget because I’ve stopped caring. About what happened. About one mistake. About people’s opinions.

Writing

Why You Aren’t Writing

The premise of this post is simple. It’s a list of some of the reasons why you aren’t writing and what you can do about it.

You’re lazy.

This is common. But if you are serious about writing, you can’t wait until you want to write or feel like writing. It doesn’t work that way.

You’re scared.

Pigs can’t fly or drive yet so there’s nothing to be afraid of. Besides no fear in this world should stop you from putting pen to paper or fingers to keyboard.

You’re bored.

Of the story. Of your characters. Of sitting in the same place, staring out the same window every day. In that case, the medicine you need is called Change. You don’t need a prescription, just your imagination. You are a writer after all. Revamp your plot. Revise your cast. And for what it’s worth, get outside. Shake up your schedule. Do something new and interesting.

You’re lost.

You have no idea where your story is going or what you want to say. While some writers can write without too much direction, others can’t. That’s perfectly fine. Take the time you need to figure it out. You don’t need to have all the answers but a general sense of your destination should be enough to get you going on your way.

You just don’t care. 

There’s nothing wrong with that. Do you care for every single character in every book you’ve read? No. Do you care for some stories over others? Yes. Solution: find something you care about, then write. Craft a character who excites you, interests you. But most of all, makes you and possibly your readers, care. And if you don’t care much for writing, you’re on the wrong site.

I would redirect you but I really should be writing. And you should too.

Writing

From One Writer To Another

Never spread yourself too thin. Never overwork yourself.

It’s great to push your mind and body but if you push yourself to the point of pain, know when it’s time to cut back.

Take care writers. Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day after all.

Writing

30 Questions To Ask Yourself During NaNoWriMo-Day 18

Is it just me or does it feel like something big is going to happen today? Regardless, we have reached day 18.

Question #18

Is your story making you cry yet? 

Your piece needs to evoke emotions from your readers. It doesn’t matter if you make them laugh, cry or shriek. What matters is you make them feel something when they are reading your story.

The best way to test that?

Check to see that your work has an effect on your mood. Does your novel make you excited and elated? Is there a scene that is depressing and gloomy? Do you feel shocked and scared for the next chapter? Frustrated and angered at the antagonist?

Because if you aren’t feeling anything, your readers surely won’t either.

Whatever you do, whatever you write, make your readers care. And the only way they’ll care is to ensure they are invested in your characters, your plot, your story.

Writers, continue tugging on people’s heart strings.

Here’s another question: are you thinking ahead?

Writing

30 Questions To Ask Yourself During NaNoWriMo-Day 14

While the question below does not directly relate to writing, the question is still crucial to consider because if you aren’t careful, it could impact your NaNoWriMo participation.

Question #14

Are you taking care of yourself?

  • Are you sane?
  • Are you healthy?
  • Are you feeling happy?

Yes? Yes? Yes?

To some extent, the quality of your writing depends on the quality of your health.

So take care everyone.

Tomorrow we hit the half-way mark. *cue round of applause*

I’ll tackle this on Friday: have you neglected the rest of your life?