Blogging

My Problem With Replying To Blog Comments

I’m not sure why, but I feel the need to reply to comments almost immediately.

I feel bad replying a few or several hours later. But life happens.

I also can’t stand when something goes wrong on the technical end and my comment doesn’t send.

I’m the same way with commenting on other bloggers’ posts. I know I’ve been a bad blogger lately in that regard. But I cringe at the thought of leaving a comment on a post that was published a day ago. It feels wrong to me.

As a blogger, I welcome comments. Even and especially on older posts,  I love getting them. As a reader, I’m weird, so sometimes I won’t comment.

I understand bloggers are busy. Everyone has a life to live. So I don’t expect instant comments or replies. In fact, the longer I wait, the more I eagerly await a response.

I still feel somewhat sad when I can’t reply right away. It’s not that I don’t want to.

When I’m away from my blog because I don’t have a Wi-Fi connection, it seems all I can think about is blogging.

The other day someone made a point about how society nowadays expects a quick reply with emails. But remember those days when the world only had snail mail and communications took much longer? Besides, a lot of stuff isn’t all that urgent.

What mattered more was that we got a response eventually, not so much that we had to wait for one.

Maybe I should stop worrying so much over wait times and focus on the content of the message itself.

All this being said, I’ll still try to get back to all of you as soon as possible.

Remind me to remind myself that replying and responding isn’t a race.

Editing

The Experience Of Giving And Receiving Feedback

My brain melted. I spent an evening reading two stories and trying to critique them, constructively of course.

I’ve forgotten how much work giving feedback is, especially to people you hardly know.

I keep going back and forth between I’m being too harsh or honest. Besides, I would want people to be truthful by providing useful suggestions, not tell me my piece is perfect, which everyone did in elementary and high school.

I like to think I have a good grasp of grammar, so I can’t help myself when I see a comma splice or a dangling modifier. But I also realize grammar isn’t always the main issue. Writers want and need feedback on style, flow, etc.

Editing is a lot of work. It’s one thing to edit your own story. It’s a whole other beast entirely when you have to critique someone else’s.

I try to give feedback I’d like to receive. So I do what I can to balance content suggestions with grammatical corrections.

Ideally, I could sit down with someone and talk to them face to face about their work. But when does that ever happen?

On the other side, getting feedback is great but still a challenge.

I hate my ego sometimes for getting in the way.

I don’t always apply every comment. At times, I am dismissive or defensive.

It helps to get an outside perspective on your writing. And I think having strangers critique your story has its advantages. They don’t know you like your family and friends do. Most of the time, they don’t have to go out of their way to protect your feelings.

But I’m careful with my comments. I include question marks following my suggestions. I say maybe and perhaps so many times, it’s not even funny. I tend to add a disclaimer at the beginning or end, saying something along the lines of take what works, toss what doesn’t. If anything is unclear, ask me to clarify.

I guess I’m well aware my ego is big but fragile, yet I don’t want to hurt anyone else’s because I’ve been on both sides of the proverbial coin.

Writing

How To Ask For Feedback And Apply It

I’m going to focus more on feedback for writers. But the following advice could be applicable in general as well.

Write down your worries.

In other words, what’s holding you back from asking and receiving help? Getting your fears on the page might make you realize you have nothing to be afraid of. After all, what’s the worst that can happen?

Find someone you trust.

You’re more likely to apply someone’s remarks if you respect the person. Which isn’t to say you can’t approach a stranger for help. Do what works for you.

Ask.

The answer will always be no if you don’t. Imagine how much your work will benefit if you have someone look over your writing for mistakes. Or at the very least, places for improvement because you’re a perfect, flawless writer.

Set boundaries.

Let the other individual know what kind of feedback you want. That way, he or she can focus specifically on your flow, grammar, structure, etc. Better yet, you get the advice you want, and you won’t be blindsided by a curveball out of left field. I hope my baseball analogies and similes don’t bore you all to tears by the end of the year.

Listen.

Don’t be dismissive, especially if you solicited their suggestions in the first place. Hear them out at the very least. They might say something useful. They might not. But either way, you have nothing to lose.

Thank them.

For their time and feedback. After all, they didn’t have to provide you with comments or a critique for that story you’re working on. Unless you’re paying them to be your editor.

Don’t take anything personally.

Easier said than done, I know. But remember no one is attacking you as a person or your work either. Most people are just trying to help.

Use what works. 

You don’t have to use every suggestion.You’re more than welcome to, obviously. But ultimately it’s your story, and you’re the writer of it. Not your computer. Not your cat. Not your chicken.

That’s all my tired brain can come up with. I hope this post is useful or at least not entirely useless.

Good luck asking and applying feedback to make your work better. That’s the goal. I believe in you. Put your ego aside. Improve your writing abilities. I like to think life gets easier. But maybe nothing ever does. Either way, you have what it takes.

Blogging

WordPress Difficulties 

Why WordPress isn’t notifying me is beyond me.

What do you mean you aren’t going to let me know someone left a comment on my post?

Don’t you know my self-esteem is at an all time low? 

Come on.

To make matters worse, I clicked the publish button by accident on my phone while working on this post.

Today just isn’t my day, so I’m going to call it one.

Tomorrow is a new day with no mistakes. Not yet at least.

Blogging

A Blogging Wish

I’m not wishing for more followers or views or likes or comments, but they are always welcome. I am grateful for every single one.

Besides I don’t blog because I want fame or fortune. I just wish to continue blogging as frequently as I can. Even though I said I’d be blogging less, I’m doing my best to not stay true to my word. Until November.

Naturally I gravitate towards doing what I love in order to put off what I don’t.

That’s why I blog rather than complete schoolwork.

And I hope you do the same so I’m able to stalk you.

I mean I want you to blog. Not avoid work or neglect school. I don’t condone that.

Blogging

Pick One: Blogging Edition

Kind of like Would You Rather: Blogger Edition but not really. More like Pick One: Social Media Edition with a bloggy twist.

I’m simply choosing what I prefer between the two.

Static home page or most recent posts?

Most recent posts.

Menu on the top or bottom?

Top.

Sidebar on the left or right?

Right.

Likes or comments?

Comments.

Followers or views?

Followers.

Serif or sans serif?

Serif.

Blogging · School

School Would Be More Likable If…

I didn’t have to interact with people I didn’t like.

And if I liked someone, we’d interact by reading each other’s blogs and leaving silly comments.

What’s that? They don’t have a blog? Well then, I probably don’t like them.

To be fair, my first day of university exceeded my expectations. I actually enjoyed it. It’s nice to feel like I’m learning new concepts and challenging old ones.

I hope you have or had a good day.

Blogging

The Bane Of One Blogger’s Existence

School is the bane of a blogger’s existence.

Below are some sad but true things that will probably happen once the curse starts tomorrow.

I’ll take even longer to reply to comments.

I apologize in advance. I’m going to be without WiFi during my commute. Then I have lectures that will stretch on for a few hours. At least I have everyone here to keep me sane.

The quality of my posts are going to decline.

As if they’re any good now. I still want to blog, even if I won’t have nearly as much time as I’d like.

I will be a bad blogging buddy to have.

So ditch me now. Unfollow me already.