How To Deal With Criticism

Criticism isn’t easy to deal with even when it’s constructive.

Changing my mindset has helped me. I don’t want to be defensive or reactionary every time someone gives me feedback. That’s not the best attitude to have.

Besides, constructive criticism helps me improve and get better. I should listen to others, especially when they offer suggestions I wouldn’t have thought of on my own.

I try not to take any comments about my work personally. That’s obviously easier said than done, but more often than not, no one is attacking me. They’re just making a statement about my story.

I tend to seek out people I respect. I’m much more open to their opinions if I look up to them.

But when I receive feedback from a stranger or someone I don’t like, I do my best to see where s/he is coming from. After all, nobody has the same experiences as me.

What’s more, we can learn something from everyone, which is why I want to hear from different voices.

That said, I still filter. Not every remark is useful or helpful. The negative comments that serve no purpose are best ignored, forgotten.

Ultimately, I want to keep improving. There’s always room for improvement. I’m not perfect. I haven’t mastered everything, and I never will.

It’s important to hear people out whenever they provide helpful feedback. I’ll take what works and apply it to my own work. I can throw away what doesn’t.

At the end of the day, constructive criticism is part of life.


Late Night Writing Advice

It isn’t that late right now.

And this isn’t exactly writing advice so much as it is life advice.

But just go with it. Appease me, please.

Don’t take criticism to heart but take it to your mind. Filter the useful from the useless. Analyze the feedback. Tame your large ego if you have one like me so you can improve without feeling like the world is conspiring against you.

Focus on the process, the journey rather than obsess over the final product or result. Do that and you’ll drown in happiness. Contentment.

You’re going to write a lot of bad stuff before you can write something good. I stare at a sticky note that says “failure is preparation for success” every day.

I hope I’m still making sense.

Personal Reflection

Two Types Of Pain

As far as I am concerned, there are two types of pain in this world. Pain that I can handle. And pain that I can’t.

Examples of pain I can handle:

  • Rejection. From strangers. From editors. From boys.
  • Criticism. Of my dancing. Of my writing. Of my blog.
  • Hate. So what if you hate me? It really makes no difference if you’re not on my side. So hate all you want. Then again if you’re kind to me, you can expect the same in return.

Examples of pain I can’t handle:

  • Back pain. As a dancer, my back is just as important as my feet. It’s hard to move, much less dance, when your back hurts. Yes, I am speaking from experience. Never again please. Now I’m afraid to grow old. I want to be able to dance forever.
  • Stomach pain. It’s hard to be creative when my stomach is complaining. And not just complaining from hunger. Or from eating too much. When I say stomach pain think giving birth pain.
  • Brain pain. Headaches, migraines, whatever. Brain pain is unbearable pain. More so if you happen to be a writer.

100 Writing Tips For Writers, Editors, And Bloggers

I used to do these tips in segments. Each segment had 25 tips but since time flew by and laziness overcame me, I figured I would resurrect my writing tips, one hundred at a time.

All of these tips are posted on my Facebook page and Twitter account as well.


  1. A story will tell itself when it’s ready to be told.
  2. Deadlines instill urgency. Urgency usually generates productivity.
  3. It’s never too early or too late to start writing.
  4. Never over explain but never understate. Seek a balance.
  5. Write whatever you want. Draw whatever you will. Perform whatever you can.
  6. You may disagree but do so respectively.
  7. Let your writing speak for itself.
  8. You need to write badly in order to learn how not to write badly.
  9. When criticizing the work, never criticize the writer.
  10. Any amount of preparation is useless if you don’t follow through.
  11. Write like every day was your last.
  12. Stories make the world go around.
  13. Do not aim for perfection. You’ll only be disappointed.
  14. Follow the writing advice you give others.
  15. Writing a first draft is the only time you can ever settle for anything less than your best.
  16. Write like every day was your last.
  17. Write something, anything.
  18. Never confuse typing with writing. They are not one and the same.
  19. Choose every word you use carefully.
  20. Say what you need to—nothing more, nothing less.
  21. You are allowed to break the rules if you know the rules.
  22. A first draft is not perfect. Your job is to perfect it.
  23. There is no right way to write. Likewise, there is no wrong way to write.
  24. Always propel the story forward.
  25. Go back and rediscover why you started writing in the first place.
  26. The first step to success: self-trust.
  27. Test every chapter, every scene, every page, every word.
  28. Concentrate on the process first and foremost. The product comes after.
  29. Change your scenery both literally and figuratively.
  30. Your job as a writer is to bring the dull and mundane details to life.
  31. Search for the unseen in real life and in your novels.
  32. You know you’re finished writing when you’ve said just enough. Nothing more, nothing less.
  33. Read. Write. Repeat.
  34. You can let mistakes drag you down or help build you up.
  35. Some of the best stories come from the worst decisions.
  36. What you write today is not what you will write in a year’s time.
  37. Don’t settle for mediocre. Don’t even settle for good.
  38. Listen to what your stories tell you.
  39. What is unsaid is just as powerful as what is said.
  40. Great writing transcends one individual self.
  41. Turn pain into wisdom.
  42. Throw every idea onto the page. Surely one will stick.
  43. Allow people to read what you write. Let yourself be vulnerable.
  44. Pace yourself.
  45. The tiniest moment will make for a grand story someday.
  46. Numbers don’t matter. Words do.
  47. Know when enough is enough.
  48. When life gives you lemons, turn them into a story.
  49. Start something you know you will be able to finish.
  50. In life, you avoid conflict. In fiction, you embrace it.
  51. Every excess word becomes a vice, a burden.
  52. Hard work knows no limits, no boundaries.
  53. The writing life is what you make it.
  54. Don’t believe everything you hear. Do your research, employ common sense, and ask questions.
  55. Write about the people who fascinate you.
  56. Don’t ever let anyone talk you out of writing.
  57. You will win if you refuse to lose. You will succeed if you refuse to fail.
  58. You cannot write for others. You must write for yourself.
  59. There is a fine line between being fancy and being formal.
  60. When in doubt, leave it out.
  61. You will never use all of your ideas. Your job is to choose which ones you do use.
  62. Fiction is a necessity. That’s why writers exist.
  63. Never start something you won’t finish.
  64. One day your tears, your pain, your hard work will pay off.
  65. Never lose focus, both in your life and in your story.
  66. There will never be ideal conditions to write.
  67. Quality over quantity. Always.
  68. Never agonize over a first draft.
  69. The best have failed and have fallen but have risen.
  70. The first step in becoming a writer is believing you are a writer.
  71. Today you may do something you couldn’t do yesterday.
  72. The only way you will ever finish any novel is to start it.
  73. When you feel like quitting, remember why you started.
  74. Never take criticisms personally.
  75. Everything is difficult in the beginning.
  76. Learn to love writing. Or learn to love something else.
  77. Never let your failures affect your future.
  78. The only way to turn your ideas into reality is to put them on paper.
  79. Ideas can come from anywhere.
  80. First drafts are not perfect. Your job is to perfect them.
  81. Not everyone will like what you write.
  82. Don’t get cocky, conceited, or condescending.
  83. You must choose to never give up.
  84. You cannot blame anyone or anything for your failures.
  85. Being blind to your own mistakes impends your success.
  86. Assume that every word you write could be your last.
  87. A mind in motion tends to stay in motion.
  88. Luck manifests from hard work.
  89. All writers learn from trial and error.
  90. You cannot rush creativity.
  91. Small acts amount to great success.
  92. Edit as though the entire world will read what you have written.
  93. Every ambitious amateur can turn into an amazing artist.
  94. Every artist is a little crazy.
  95. Always leave a part of yourself on the page.
  96. Genius takes work, time, and effort.
  97. You tread on thin ice when you start to repeat yourself, over and over and over again.
  98. In order to write anything worth reading, you have to take risks.
  99. Short and sweet over long and bitter.
  100. If you must express yourself to feel alive, you must keep on writing.

I do realize that writing tips number 22 and number 80 are almost exactly the same so here is an additional tip to make up for my mistake:

  • When you make a mistake, own up to it. 

Fitting, isn’t it? You may be wondering if I did that on purpose. Well, I didn’t. It was a complete accident. Sorry about my previous error in judgement.

Links to similar posts:

25 Writing Tips For Writers, Editors, and Authors

25 Writing Tips For Writers, Editors, and Authors (Part 2)

25 Writing Tips For Writers, Editors, and Authors (Part 3)

25 Writing Tips For Writers, Editors, and Authors (Part 4)

25 Writing Tips For Writers, Editors, and Authors (Part 5)

Until next time everyone! (Next time being about 100 or so days from now.)


25 Writing Tips For Writers, Editors, and Authors (Part 6)

A long overdue post on tips and tricks about writing (well, mostly).

Once again, I post these on my Facebook and Twitter as well.

Enjoy and have an awesome day.

  1. All wonderful things take time to cultivate. Novels are no exceptions.
  2. Be proud of what you write.
  3. Shock your readers. Scare them. Make them cry. Anything. Make them feel something.
  4. Writers must learn to forgive themselves.
  5. Open your heart. Open your mind. Let everything into your life.
  6. Give the readers a reason to read on.
  7. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Don’t let a negative opinion bring you down.
  8. Every writer started somewhere. Find your start, know your finish, and work hard from beginning to end.
  9. Leave your readers wanting more, not less.
  10. Filter everything. Filer information, voices, and opinions. Keep what’s useful and discard what isn’t.
  11. If you continue to work, you will eventually succeed.
  12. No piece of writing should contain unnecessary words or sentences.
  13. You can fix your first draft later.
  14. In the writing world, you need compliments as much as you need criticism.
  15. You are a writer, not a miracle worker.
  16. As confusing as grammar is, it’s even more confusing when you don’t employ proper grammar in your work.
  17. Something is better than nothing.
  18. Never fear making mistakes. Your fear will only hinder your creativity.
  19. Write to please yourself but to satisfy your readers.
  20. Make every paragraph meaningful. Make every sentence matter. Make every word magnificent.
  21. When you write, you spew. When you edit, you craft.
  22. Persist and you shall succeed.
  23. Failure is preparation for success.
  24. Anyone can write but not everyone can do it well.
  25. Never underestimate the intelligence of your audience.

Links to previous posts:

25 Writing Tips For Writers, Editors, and Authors

25 Writing Tips For Writers, Editors, and Authors (Part 2)

25 Writing Tips For Writers, Editors, and Authors (Part 3)

25 Writing Tips For Writers, Editors, and Authors (Part 4)

25 Writing Tips For Writers, Editors, and Authors (Part 5)

Feel free to comment down below and tell me which one resonated with you the most.