Personal Reflection

On Gaining And Losing Trust

I have trust issues.

If a person can’t keep their word, I find it hard to put my faith in them. So it’s hard for people to gain my trust but easy to lose it.

I get it. People make mistakes. We’re human after all. But I’m awful at forgiving others. For my own sake, I should.

I hate when people lie to my face or make a promise and break it. Then again, I’m a hypocrite. I wouldn’t want anyone to betray or backstab me, especially someone I trust.

As I get older, the circle of individuals I trust gets smaller and smaller. Which is fine with me honestly. It saves a lot of time.

I’m not an easy person to impress. I can’t even impress myself. It’s a blessing and a curse, let me tell you. I also get disappointed easily because I hold high expectations. Some days, I hold myself to a standard that drives me insane.

We can’t pick family, but at least we can pick friends.

I love fictional characters because they’ll never not be there for you. Maybe one day I’ll find a real human being I trust completely.

In short, I trust like two people.


28 Boring Words And What To Use Instead

Another writer and blogger named Jack Milgram shared this lovely infographic with me the other day. So I thought I’d share it with all of you because sharing is caring. I obviously like to think I’m a caring person. Then again, there’s probably a reason why I don’t have many friends in real life and turn to fictional characters to keep me company. On a more serious note, I hope this graphic helps!


Pick One: Book Characters

While writing my Pick One: Book Series blog post, I was inspired to pit fictional characters against each other. Enjoy!

Peeta or Gale? Hunger Games 

They’re both cool characters. Younger Herminia just thought Gale was cooler.

Edward or Jacob? Twilight 

Probably Jacob. I’m old, but I believe younger me was a bigger fan of the latter.

Dorian or Chaol? Throne of Glass

I liked Chaol’s character and his relationship with Celaena.

Rhysand or Tamlin? A Court of Thorns and Roses

Rhysand. He was more interesting to me even in the first book.

Darrow or Sevro? Red Rising

Darrow is amazing, but Sevro is somehow even more amazing. But I love them to pieces.

Minho or Newt? The Maze Runner

Minho in the books, Newt in the movies. So much got lost in the film adaptations. It’s such a shame.

Brenda or Theresa? The Maze Runner

Theresa in both the books and movies. She had greater depth to her character.

John or Robert Puller? John Puller

Robert. I’ve said this before, and I’m going to say it again: I love the older brother’s brain. I need a series that exclusively follows him everywhere.

Safiya or Iseult? The Witchlands

Iseult. She helped me remember the word, homeostasis, which I coincidentally learned in my biotechnology class. That’s enough to win me over. I have low expectations, okay.

Clary or Isabelle? The Mortal Instruments

Isabelle all the way. She’s one of the few characters I grew fonder of.

This was such a struggle to write. I hope you appreciate my suffering.

Personal Reflection

15 Things I Love

I’m capable of love too. I’m not that hateful of a person.

  1. The sound of keys being pressed.
  2. The sound of pens being clicked.
  3. The colour red.
  4. Simple Plan.
  5. Criminal Minds.
  6. Cheese.
  7. Chips.
  8. Smoothies.
  9. Eating.
  10. Learning.
  11. Winning.
  12. Cleaning.
  13. Creating.
  14. Many fictional characters.
  15. My family.

No surprises here.

It should be obvious that I love lists. Even if you only followed me two minutes ago.


Stolen My Heart

I still can’t believe that in less than three hours, May will officially commence. Depending on where you live, it might not be April anymore.

Sadly Camp NaNoWriMo is also over/will be over very shortly. Kudos to everyone who participated. Congratulations to everyone who won.

In case anyone was wondering, I started off with an idea for a novel. Then I started working on a whole bunch of short stories and essays. So it’s hard to gauge exactly how many words I wrote this past month. Suffice to say I did a lot of writing. And I hope you did as well. Sometime in the future I plan on coming back to the novel. A moment ago, I opened the document and fell in love with the characters all over again. What can I say? Many fictional characters have stolen my heart.

Let May be just as productive as April—if not more so.


Why This Writer Would Never Date Another Writer

Reason One: We would rarely see one another.

“Oh, are you busy tonight?”


“Are you busy every day for the next year?”


“Okay. See you a year and a day from now?”


“On second thought, I might be busy then.”

Case in point.

Reason Two: We would be more in love with our work (read: fictional characters) rather than each other.

“I love my current protagonist.”

“Oh yeah? Right now, I love my antagonist.”

“Do you love me?”

“Not as much as I love my antagonist, no.”

“That’s okay. The feeling is mutual. I love my protagonist more than I’ll ever love you.”

That’s one healthy relationship.

Reason Three: We would be poor separately but penniless together. 

“So uh, are you paying for this?”

“I thought you were.”

“I don’t have any cash with me.”

“Neither do I.”

“Well we could always starve, live on the streets, and wear the clothes on our backs for the rest of our lives.”

What a bright future we have together.

I have reached the end of this post, which is a little different from my normal ones. I know I’m being dramatic and exaggerating the truth. That’s the whole point. Of course most of you know I don’t mean to offend or insult anyone. Especially all the lovely writers reading this.

I originally wrote this post for fun (more like my sanity), but now I’m starting to think dating another writer wouldn’t be so bad. We’d both pursue our dreams, enjoy what we do, and go through hardships like any couple. This entire post is wildly inaccurate. I may just rename it to…

Why This Writer Would Date Another Writer

Personal Reflection · Writing

Why Bad Things Happen

Why did you fail that test? Why did you get a bad mark? Why did you break up with him? Why did you fight with her?

So you can write about it. Duh!

The more experiences you amass, the easier it is to write about life—convincingly.

Also, you can relate and sympathize with other people and even with fictional characters when you’ve been through it before.

Above all else, bad things happen to make you a better person. At least it should…