Personal Reflection

Life Is Too Short To Not Live And Love

I want to live a life I’m proud of living. I’m not perfect. My life isn’t either. But I try to appreciate what I have and who I am.

I feel as if I’ve grown up a lot this year. I’m also growing older.

The girl who started this blog in 2013 has come a long way. That being said, I still have a long way to go.

Some days, I look back and see how far I’ve come. I also look forward, knowing the road ahead won’t be an easy one.

Maybe I’m being melodramatic. It wouldn’t be the first time. But I feel like I’ve been given a second chance at life. And I don’t want to waste the time remaining.

Recently, I’ve been grappling with the following question: is it better to have loved and lost than never love at all?

As much as I hate losing, I’d rather love and lose than never love. Even if 10 months from now, I don’t love anymore. That’s OK. We grow. We outgrow too.

Life is too short to never love, to always hate. I think in order to live and love, we have to take risks. I’d like to be able to live fearlessly.

Maybe we lose what’s wrong in order to find what’s right.

Personal Reflection

Fears, Doubts, And Uncertainties

Because almost nothing in life is a guarantee, there will always be some degree of uncertainty to it.

I’m at a point in life where I have doubts. I don’t know as much as I’d like to. I have more questions than answers.

I feel somewhat scared when I think about the future, especially imagining worst-case scenarios. What if nothing works out?

As I get older, there are more things I’m expected to do that I’ve never done before. Obligations and responsibilities galore. Being an adult isn’t so glamorous.

First time for everything, right? Oftentimes the first anything isn’t easy. First job. First love. First house.

Taking things one day at a time helps. Otherwise, I’d get overwhelmed thinking about my life thirty years from now.

After all, we only ever have right now. This very moment. The present.

Even though I joke about being old, I’m only twenty. I haven’t been around that long. I still have so much to experience. If anything, I’m just getting started.

When I was younger, I felt more confident in myself. I believed in my abilities. But right now, I’m not so sure.

I feel like I’m standing on uneven ground.

To be frank, I’m not where I want to be. Far from it. Hopefully, I’ll get where I want to go sooner rather than later. When the time is right, I’ll get to my destination.

I don’t feel ready or prepared at all for anything. But that’s okay. I’ll learn as fast as I can. I can always get better.

I can’t redo some firsts. But I can use those experiences the second time around, the third, so on and so forth.

Who cares if I fail the first time? Who cares if I don’t do well right away?

So what if I lose instead of win? So what if I get rejected 99 times out of 100?

If everything came easy, what would be the point of doing anything at all?

Writing this has given me some much needed perspective. I hope it helps anyone out there who needed to hear these words.

No matter what happens, you’re going to be okay.

Personal Reflection

Don’t Let The Bad Days Win

Don't let the bad days win. Easier said than done.

They happen. Grind through them.

It's okay to take an easier day when you aren't feeling well. The world won't end.

There's always going to be work, something to do. But the most important things in life aren't going to be around forever.

Life is dirty, messy.

Nothing worth doing is ever easy. If it was, everyone would be successful at everything.

Even the happiest people in the world have bad days.

The hard times make the great moments even better.

Life is unfair. Accept that and move on.

You're not alone. Someone, somewhere feels the same way you do right now.

Keep going and continue doing your thing.

Try not to take everything personally. It's not always about you.

Some days you do nothing wrong and still lose. Losing is part of living.

You can spend years getting working hard, yet lose all you worked for in a second.

From time to time, bad days stretch into bad weeks. It gets better.

You never know what tomorrow may bring, so make the best of what you have today at this very moment.

You aren't perfect. You don't have to be. Human beings are human. People make mistakes.

Don't stress too much about what's already happened. You can't change the past or go back in time. But you can change your future by focusing on the present.

Be a kind human being, even and especially when you don't feel your best.

I wrote this post during a bad day. I needed to remind myself of certain things, cliché and all.

Thanks for sticking around and reading my ramblings. I appreciate it more than you know. I'll leave you with one last thought.

Take the good and bad in life because there isn't one without the other.

Personal Reflection

Losing An Hour

If you reside in Canada or the US, you lost an hour earlier, thanks to the lovely phenomenon known as Daylight Savings Time.

How does it feel to lose an hour of sleep? How does it feel to lose 60 minutes where you could have been reading or writing or blogging? How does it feel to lose 3600 seconds and do less of whatever it is you typically do on a Sunday?

On any given day, I could use additional hours to work or rest. So losing one is not ideal, to say the least.

Unfortunatley, I was not as productive today as I normally am. I blame the person behind this DST thing. How dare you steal an hour from the insufficient 24 in a day.

Writing

Don’t Argue With A Writer

Why not?

Because:

  • Writers remember everything you say.
  • You’re going to lose.
  • Writers remember everything you did.
  • You won’t win.
  • Writers remember everything you didn’t say.
  • You’ll lose more than you’ll win.
  • Writers remember everything you didn’t do.
  • You will not win anything but you will lose everything.

Don’t say I never told you so.

Writing

How Not To Lose Your Work

  1. Save.
  2. Safely remove your USB.
  3. Save.
  4. Back up.
  5. Save.
  6. Make a copy.
  7. Save.
  8. Make more copies.
  9. Save.
  10. Save again.
Writing

National Novel Writing Month Starts Tomorrow!

Halloween is great and all but NaNoWriMo is better.

This year I’m going in with a positive mentality like I do every year.

Because really what do I have to lose?

Nothing.

So whether I win or not, I still won’t be losing anything.

There is too much to gain. Besides, I’m not going to pass up an opportunity to write.

If you are still on the fence, join me. At the very least, you won’t be going through NaNo alone.

I am aware some of you lucky souls are already writing.

Anyhow, good luck everyone! Don’t forget to have fun.

Writing

10 Reasons Why You Never Start An Argument With A Writer

  1. You are completely wrong.
  2. You are not completely right.
  3. You will lose miserably.
  4. You will not win unfortunately.
  5. You will look stupid, ignorant or ridiculous.
  6. You may regret it.
  7. You may ruin your ego.
  8. You may suffer physically, mentally, and emotionally.
  9. You may remember it forever.
  10. You just don’t.