Personal Reflection

Taking Some Time To Reflect

I want to take some time to reflect on this year. It wasn’t always easy. I had bad days. But I’m in a better place now.

I’m content. I’ve been fortunate enough to do what I love. I fought and still fight to protect my time.

I’ve experienced a lot of things I didn’t think I would. Some good, some bad. Some downright awful. But I’m still standing.

I went from going through the worst to the best period of my life. And I owe a lot of that to a very special person. Make no mistake, I’ll still single. But a complete stranger changed my life for the better.

Little by little, my perspective has expanded and evolved. I’m not perfect, but I don’t need to be. I’ve done so much, and I am ready to do more.

Even though I’m grateful for all the big events, I’m equally thankful for all the small tasks. I’ve been able to get back a lot of what I lost. There’s still a lot for me to live for.

I’m alive. I feel alive. My smile has reached my eyes, not just once or twice but countless times.

That said, recovery is a long road. In some ways, I’m still recovering. That’s okay. I’ve been able to share this journey with some incredible individuals. So thank you.

Personal Reflection

When You Feel Like You Aren’t Good Enough

You are. You’re enough.

Pick yourself up and brush off the dust. This journey is your own. But that doesn’t mean you’re alone. Someone cares. You might not think anyone does, but there is a person out there.

You always want to do more. But you only have 24 hours in the day. You can’t accomplish everything in one night. After all, no one is an overnight success.

Sometimes you feel lost. Then again, you’re finding your way just like everyone else.

No matter how long you’ve been doing something, you’re still learning all the time.

You don’t want to settle, so it’s difficult to feel satisfied. Make sure you celebrate small wins because they lead to bigger victories.

The world isn’t fair. Life isn’t fair. All the more reason to be kind to yourself.

You’ve set the bar so high. So you keep reaching and falling short. One day, you will reach the stars. You’ll be higher than you’ve ever been before.

In an age where everything seems to happen instantaneously, it can be hard to be patient. You might want to quit. You’ll wonder if your destination is worth it. Trust your instincts.

Focus on the process, not the product. Concentrate on the things you can control. Don’t worry about what you can’t.

Look ahead. Move on. Imagine a better future.

Live a life you will not regret. Sometimes you only have one chance.

When you fail, remember you’re one step closer to success. None of your mistakes are in vain if you learn from them.

Drown out the noise, the negativity. Surround yourself around positive people.

Support others because beneath our differences, we’re all the same in the end.

You are good enough.

Writing

A NaNoWriMo Survival Guide

A NaNoWriMo Survival Guide

So you’re prepared for all that November throws at you.

  • What to do if you’re “exhausted”
    1. Sleep
    2. Eat
    3. Relax
    4. Shower
    5. Exercise
  • What to do if you’re “uninspired”
    1. Get by
    2. Get out
    3. Get away
    4. Get going
    5. Get together
  • What to do if you’re “blocked”
    1. Take a walk
    2. Call a friend
    3. Read a book
    4. Listen to music
    5. Explore the neighborhood
  • What to do if you’re “lost”
    1. Pull out your outline
    2. Ask a complete stranger
    3. Get even more lost
    4. Distance yourself for now
    5. Let your characters roam
  • What to do if you’re “busy”
    1. Learn when to say no
    2. Give up what you can
    3. Reduce time with other activities
    4. Force yourself to just start
    5. Do not accept any excuses

There you have it. Five scenarios you may encounter during NaNo and five solutions for each one.

I hope you survive!

Writing

Why You Aren’t Writing

The premise of this post is simple. It’s a list of some of the reasons why you aren’t writing and what you can do about it.

You’re lazy.

This is common. But if you are serious about writing, you can’t wait until you want to write or feel like writing. It doesn’t work that way.

You’re scared.

Pigs can’t fly or drive yet so there’s nothing to be afraid of. Besides no fear in this world should stop you from putting pen to paper or fingers to keyboard.

You’re bored.

Of the story. Of your characters. Of sitting in the same place, staring out the same window every day. In that case, the medicine you need is called Change. You don’t need a prescription, just your imagination. You are a writer after all. Revamp your plot. Revise your cast. And for what it’s worth, get outside. Shake up your schedule. Do something new and interesting.

You’re lost.

You have no idea where your story is going or what you want to say. While some writers can write without too much direction, others can’t. That’s perfectly fine. Take the time you need to figure it out. You don’t need to have all the answers but a general sense of your destination should be enough to get you going on your way.

You just don’t care. 

There’s nothing wrong with that. Do you care for every single character in every book you’ve read? No. Do you care for some stories over others? Yes. Solution: find something you care about, then write. Craft a character who excites you, interests you. But most of all, makes you and possibly your readers, care. And if you don’t care much for writing, you’re on the wrong site.

I would redirect you but I really should be writing. And you should too.