Blogging

Publishing 1,458 Posts

April 2, 2013: I published my first blog post.

April 2, 2017: I’m publishing my one thousand four hundred fifty eighth post.

That’s a lot of posts.

I know many of them are bad, imperfect, etc.

They’re short.

They aren’t life-changing or mind-blowing.

But that’s okay.

I still remember the days I had zero posts to my name. At one point, I had no followers and no views on this blog. Even though numbers don’t matter, I still can’t wrap my head around any of this.

It feels like I just started blogging yesterday but also like I’ve been blogging ever since I was born.

It’s insane to think I’ve had so many ideas. What’s even more insane is the fact that I’ve published a great number of them.

As for those 500+ drafts I have lying around, some will never see the light of day. Others, with a lot of tinkering, just might.

I can’t say it enough—thank you for reading, commenting, and sharing. I hope you continue to.

Personal Reflection

You Are Not

You are not a number on the scale.

You aren’t a grade, a GPA.

You are not how much you make.

You aren’t the number of books you’ve read or the number of articles you’ve published.

You are not the friends you have on Facebook or the followers you gained on Twitter or the likes you get on Instagram.

You aren’t the views on your blog, the subscribers on your channel.

You are not any of these things.

You are so much more.

Writing

Writers, Do You Ever…

  • Feel guilty about starting a project you promised you’d finish but never did?
  • Remember an old story you started and somehow finished several years ago?
  • Have long conversations with your characters to learn more about their lives?
  • Wonder what your characters would do if they were in the situation you’re currently in?
  • Dream about your stories being turned into films or TV shows but all those stories only exist in your head?
  • Imagine talking about your published novel with other people even though the novel in question isn’t written, much less published?
Writing

Feeling Like A Fake Writer

There’s no such thing as a “fake writer”. You’re a writer or you aren’t.

Stop feeling like you’re a fraud. 

Don’t let yourself believe you aren’t a “real writer”.

It doesn’t matter how many years you’ve been writing or how much you write every day.

It doesn’t matter if you have one book published, ten, or none at all.

It doesn’t matter that you don’t write the same way as someone else or that someone else doesn’t write the same way you do.

You’re a writer if you write.

Blogging · Studying · Writing

What I Love-Camp NaNoWriMo: April 2016

You had to have seen this coming.

I mean have you met me?

If it wasn’t for NaNoWriMo, I don’t think I would have written anything that’s longer than ten thousand words.

Wannabe writer right here. Novelist, more like it.

Why did I ever think I could get novels published when I can’t even finish one?

Somehow though, come November, I’m writing more words in one day than I usually do all year.

Hilarious, aren’t I? Delirious too. It’s late. Give me a break. My small brain can’t handle studying, writing, and blogging. Something has to give, okay?

Why do I do this to myself?

But this April I haven’t let myself off the hook.

Despite classes and exams.

School needs to leave me alone.

Of course I finish exams on the second last day of this month, the last day of the official exam period. I refuse to fail at anything, even though university is clearly conspiring against me.

I can’t promise that my posts this summer will be worth reading.

But maybe my Camp NaNoWrimo stories will be!

After I spend the next four years of my life editing them. Or rewriting.

Writing

What (Not) To Do When You’re Behind In Your Word Count

If you’re 10K behind like me, you can do one or all of the following:

  • Cry a river before filling an ocean.
  • Read books that are published and mourn your unpublished career.
  • Publish a blog post to justify not writing creatively.
  • Throw a dance party for one because you don’t believe in pity parties.
  • Feel insanely productive for not procrastinating by writing for hours.

But what’s the fun in doing the latter when you can do everything else except put pen to paper/fingers to keyboard?

Put some pressure on yourself.

Good luck. Catch up if you need to. If you are many words ahead, I don’t want to talk to you because you aren’t human.

Writing

Be A (More) Confident Writer

Another Tumblr ask and answer.

Hi, I was wondering if you could answer how to gain confidence or be more confident about writing. I know that writing every day is a key step, but sometimes I get so unsure about what I want to write that I can’t even write it for myself. Thanks!

I can certainly answer based on my own experience. Keep in mind this is what has worked for me, so it may or may not work for you.

As usual I’ll bold the main points and elaborate on them. If you’re lazy or lacking time (who isn’t?), you can skim over the non-bolded text. Or skip this entirely. I don’t care.

Read (and write) every day.

You’ve already mentioned writing every day. It’s worth noting I read every day. Some days, I don’t get as much reading done as I’d like. But a little work over your long lifespan adds up. Read a bit every day if you can, so you subconsciously pick up new words, strange ideas, different phrases, odd concepts, etc. Making it a habit to read and write daily has helped my confidence tremendously. Reading especially. Books are arguably the best teacher if you’re willing to be a disciplined student.

Be independent.

Do what you can on your own. There’s nothing like conquering the world by yourself to boost your confidence. Of course, ask for help if you need it. But writing requires you to wear many hats and put on many pants alone. Without someone else holding your hand, feeding you food. Just know you’re more capable thank you think.

Wear Write what makes you feel confident.

Heck, wear what makes you feel confident while you’re writing. Write what you know isn’t terrible advice either. Though I wouldn’t stick to writing what you know all the time. If you know what you’re writing about like the back of your hand, you should have a greater command of your subject. Therefore, you should be more confident. If not, the Internet is your best bet. Allow yourself to feel comfortable. Maybe that means having a cup of coffee by your side. Perhaps you’ll put on makeup before heading to your desk. Or you might stick to a genre you love for your first novel. Comfort leads to confidence, at least in my experience. So get comfortable physically, mentally, emotionally. Confidence will follow.

Let yourself fail.

Failure sucks. But fear of failure sucks even more. I want to address the remark you made of being “unsure”. I don’t want to jump to any conclusions, but I wonder if you’re afraid of something. Afraid of failing. Afraid your story won’t be what you hope it will be. Afraid you’re not good enough. Whatever. I want you to fail. I want your story to not be perfect. I want you to feel like your writing isn’t good enough. So long as you use that to your advantage. You failed? Keep failing until you succeed. Your story didn’t turn out right? Write until you make it right. Your writing is nowhere near where it needs to be? Then keep your butt in that chair and work away. Every time you’re rejected, either start on something else or rewrite that story. Send your story into the world as many times as it takes. And never stop learning from your mistakes. It’s not easy failing again and again. But the more you fail, the better off you’ll be from it.

Get published.

I’m not saying you need to publish a book in order to be a confident writer. But there’s something about seeing your name in print that nothing else can quite rival. I know it isn’t easy. I’ve been there. I’m still there. If I can do it, you most definitely can. Take baby steps. Enter a national or regional writing contest. Then keep at it until you’re accepted for publication. Someone somewhere will publish your story. Or poem. Maybe try your hand in writing a blog post for a business or organization. I’ve done both. Tiny successes like those plant and/or water a confidence seed in your head. If your work is good enough to be printed, you’re on the right path. If you can get something published, you can certainly do it again.

Care less.

I used to be very paranoid and sensitive. But ever since uni started, I’ve stopped caring about the stupid things and I care a lot less about not as stupid but still senseless stuff. Guess what? I’m more confident today than I ever was before. You’ll just have to take my word on it. Don’t stop caring about everything. But do care less about the not so important crap life throws you. I hope you feel better and more confident as a result.

Happy writing confidently!

Ask me anything if you want to read more of my advice.

Are you sick of these already? I promise once exams end, I’ll be less of a lazy blogger who complains about lack of time. Key word: promise.

Writing

Writing For Free

Writing For Free

If you’re going to write for free (without receiving financial compensation), do it on your own terms. 

If you spend your “free” time doing something, make sure it’s something you actually want to do. 

If your work is good enough to be published, it’s good enough for you to be paid.

If you are angry, write a blog post (which you won’t get a cent for) and try not to appear as angry as you feel.