Pre-writing Ritual

What I anticipate will happen:

Sit down.

Start writing.

What actually happens:

Check email.

Check other email.

Check WordPress.

Check Facebook.

Check Twitter.

Check Tumblr.

Check time.

Freak out.

Open a Word document.



Pick One: Social Media Edition

Two options. Pick one. It’s as simple as that.

I don’t use all of these so I definitely have my own bias in certain cases.

Also, I did my best to pair similar apps/services/sites together so if you’re looking for an alternative, you may be in luck.

All opinions are my own. I’m not going to bother explaining why I picked one over the other and shove my sentiments down your throat. We like what we like.

WordPress or Blogger?


Instagram or Tumblr?


Facebook or Twitter?


Hotmail or Gmail?


Google Plus or LinkedIn?


Pinterest or StumbleUpon?


About.me or Ask.fm? 


Goodreads or Wattpad?


Dropbox or Google Drive?

Google Drive.

Evernote or Simplenote?


YouTube or Vimeo? 


Flickr or DeviantArt?



What It Means If Someone Follows You

Obviously I am referring to WordPress followers (not stalkers) and basing this post on my personal blogging experience. Anyhow, some of this will probably be applicable to other social media sites that involve followers or following others.

If someone follows you on WordPress (as well as other sites like Twitter or Tumblr), you can assume it is because of one, a combination, or all of the following:

  • They like you.
  • They like your voice.
  • They like what you have to say.
  • They like how you say what you say.
  • They hope you will follow them back.

Let’s break it down, shall we? Actually I will break it down while you nod your head in agreement and read the rest.

They like you.

An extremely common reason why someone would follow you. In fact, some of your followers might be people you know. Maybe even people you know well. Most likely if they follow you, they like you. As a person. As a friend. As a guy or gal who sometimes says interesting, funny things.

They like your voice.

This one is more applicable if you have a blog. Your voice matters. There is something special and unique about it. And people want to read or hear more. What’s more, the more you use your own voice (not a fake intimidation of a random dude), the better. So keep blogging, keep writing, keep sharing. There’s no harm to it.

They like what you have to say.

Even if they don’t like what you say, they respect or appreciate what you say. End of story.

They like how you say what you say.

This matters. How you say what you say has a huge impact on whether a person clicks the follow button or moves on to someone else. Say what you like, but your tone and attitude is more important than your actual content.

They hope you will follow them back.

In some cases, this is the worst reason to follow someone. However, I can’t tell you how to live your life. And I certainly can’t tell you how to live your virtual life.

We have reached the end. All I ask when you follow someone is you at least think about the reason why you’re clicking the button. Or even why others follow you. If you think about it hard enough, you’ll begin to realize why you don’t follow every blog in the world and why some bloggers don’t follow you back. Profound stuff, huh?


11 Causes Of Writer’s Block

  1. Lack of confidence.
  2. Lack of idea.
  3. Lack of certainty.
  4. Lack of success.
  5. Lack of failure.
  6. Lack of energy.
  7. Lack of enthusiasm.
  8. Lack of company.
  9. Lack of loneliness.
  10. Lack of will.
  11. Lack of happiness.

Some of them might puzzle you. Well well well, I am here to enlighten you.

Lack of confidence. 

You aren’t confident in your writing or in yourself. You aren’t sure you will do a good job much less a mediocre job. If this is the reason you can’t put words to paper, then I hate to tell you this, but your lack of confidence gives you all the more reason to. Write something so mind-blowingly awesome that your self-esteem will have no choice but to sky-rocket through the ceiling into the sky.

Lack of idea.

Writing when you are at a loss for an idea(s) can be harder than writing when you have a plan or an outline. If that is the case, brainstorm away.

Lack of certainty. 

Not sure where you’re going or what your characters should be doing? You can either continue writing or stop and think about what logically should happen next. Some writers will gleefully charge forward. Rush ahead. Attack the unknown head on. Others prefer to plan a destination. To draw a map. To connect the dots.

Lack of success.

Being rejected sucks. And not succeeding sucks even more. Is this your mentality: why try if I won’t succeed? But how can you possibly succeed if you do not try a million and one times? Keep going.

Lack of failure.

Never failed? Never tasted the bitterness that comes with defeat? This lack of failure can hold you back. You don’t want to fail so you stop writing. If you don’t write, you can’t fail right? You can’t bear knowing that you suck. But if you don’t allow yourself to fail or to suck, you will never get better.

Lack of energy.

You’re tired, exhausted, maybe on the edge of burnout. In that case, take a break. Have a Kit-Kat. This is not a paid advertisement. In fact, I don’t get paid at all to blog. But I muster up the energy to blog because I take breaks. I know how to balance work with play. To write consistently, you must learn to do the same.

Lack of enthusiasm.

Pick something you love. Write about something you love. The lack of enthusiasm should disappear like morning dew. Words should be flowing from the tips of your fingers to the notebook or the word processor.

Lack of company.

Rarely is a story about one individual without any other characters or people in it. Besides every book you write cannot be based on yourself and only yourself. You need to be around family, friends, enemies, dogs, aliens, vampires, dinosaurs.

Lack of loneliness.

Writing at a party or at prom is not advised. Find a place where you can be alone. With your thoughts and feelings. Without distractions.

Lack of will.

I get it. You’re lazy sometimes. What I don’t get is how you can go on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Tumblr, etc., almost every day without complaining or whining. If you have time to surf the Web and use social media, you have time to sit your derriere down and make magic.

Lack of happiness.

Writing can help or hurt you. Ultimately, you need to make the best decisions for yourself. Get professional help if you need it. Allow writing to be your therapy if need be. Whatever you do, you can’t let anything get in the way of your happiness. Why? You can’t be a happy writer if you aren’t a happy person. And a happy writer is all I ask of you.


Twitter Sins With Real Life Equivalents

It’s difficult to come up with an accurate title for every blog post. I can’t always be perfect. Although I must admit the title “Twitter Sins With Real Life Equivalents” isn’t half bad if I do say so myself. Anyhow, I know this post is a bit different from my usual ones focused more on writing and/or blogging. Just wanted to switch it up a bit to avoid boring you. Enjoy.

Spamming someone with DMs, short for direct messages.

More like texting someone one too many times.

Following someone only to un-follow them later and re-follow them shortly after.

This is equivalent to dating someone, breaking up with them, and making up with your him or her.

Spamming your followers by sending tweet after tweet with a few seconds in between each.

Real life scenario: never shutting up.

The above aren’t exactly sins. If only they were…

Creative Writing · Personal Reflection

The Truth About Social Media

Facebook is fantastic.

Tumblr is terrific.

Twitter is thrilling.

WordPress is wonderful.

They are all of these things when used appropriately and  properly.