Personal Reflection

I Hate Being Bored

There’s something to be said for my hatred of boredom. I hate being bored. I’ll do just about anything if it means I’m doing something.

That explains why I also despise waiting. I try to do things while I’m waiting. Otherwise, I’d lose my mind.

But due to circumstances I didn’t see coming, I had to wait at the dentist for a while without anything to keep me occupied. I didn’t have pen or paper. I didn’t have a book. I didn’t have my phone.

So even though I felt a bit frustrated at first, I resorted to observing others.

I got to observe a father and son. Maybe a story will come out of it. Maybe not. I’ll have to add some kind of conflict or tension because the two were so happy. Meanwhile there was me being all bitter.

I’m not sure I’ll ever be able to handle parenthood, especially being a single mother. Although there wouldn’t be a dull moment in my life again if I had a kid to look after.

I kept thinking to myself why can’t I just sit and wait for a while? Because I don’t sit and wait ever.

I always feel like I should be doing something. I cannot not do anything. I feel weird and wrong doing nothing. I tried to relax. After all, there wasn’t much I could do. But to be honest I was anything but relaxed. I felt anxious. I felt I needed to be reading, writing, something.

Of course, I did a lot of thinking during the time. Part of me wishes I had a way of recording my thoughts then because I’ve forgotten them all now. I’d love to have some sort of technology to do that.

Of course, things worked out just fine. The world didn’t end. The sky didn’t fall.

Still, this isn’t an experience I’d like to repeat again. But it made me think about myself, about life in general.

Waiting at the dentist was almost as bad as watching paint dry.

Anyhow, this turned out to be one of the more interesting trips to the dentist I’ve had in a long time. That said, my last trip entailed running on about three hours of sleep right after an exam. That’s a story in and of itself.

Writing

Writing During The Holidays

Happy Christmas Eve. Happy Thursday. Happy writing.

Kudos to you if you’re planning to write during this busy time. If you aren’t then your family and friends should feel grateful that you’re actually spending time with them.

I’m kidding.

I hope you’ll continue to write during the holidays so I’m sharing my tips with you. Let it be known that I don’t follow my own advice.

  • Write in the morning. Or at night before you go to bed. If you don’t have time in the morning or at night currently, wake up earlier. Stay up a few minutes later. Get those words down before you go down.
  • Stick to a routine. At least try to establish one. Block off chunks of time you know you can get away from the real world. It’s difficult, life’s unpredictable, but having a routine increases your chances of having words written. And don’t we all want to have words written?
  •  Be wise by using time you’d waste otherwise. Waiting for guests to arrive? Write. Waiting for that turkey to roast? Write. Waiting for your significant other to text you back? Write.
  • Make writing fun. Make it enjoyable. You’ll be more likely to write a story you want to tell even if you have a million parties to attend. I won’t have that problem because I have no friends.
  • Give yourself a break. Balance is your best friend. When you’re not writing, don’t worry about writing. Relax, recover, and return later.

Happy Holidays!

Writing

8 Writer’s Pet Peeves

I have more than eight, but for the sake of time—yours and mine—I’ll just mention a few.

I may sound peeved when discussing my pet peeves, but I’m a pleasant person to be around after I’ve written. I promise.

  1. Phone calls when I’m writing. That’s Satan’s work right there.
  2. Waiting on people. If we agreed to meet at 10:30, don’t show up at 10:55. I could’ve written hundreds of words in that time.
  3. Not writing. More like not being able to write. There’s a reason I haven’t learned to drive yet.
  4. Pen marks on everything. I’m sorry, mom.
  5. Smudges. Possibly the bane of my existence.
  6. Inconsistencies. The world is better off without them.
  7. Bad pens. I’m picky. What more can I say? Using the wrong pen is dreadful.
  8. Non-writers. More like people who hate writing and love announcing their hatred to the world.

Tell me your biggest pet peeve so we can complain together.

Writing

Waiting Until The End

For the most part, I don’t tell people about my projects until they’re complete.

I’m worried about not finishing or finishing with less than satisfactory results.

So if I do finish and I happen to attain results I’m proud of, I can’t wait to tell somebody. Especially if I’ve been waiting a long time for the right moment.

Until then, I wait until the end.

It was easier to hold off telling people anything prior to starting this blog. These days I have the greatest urges to sit down and tell you everything.

Writing

How To Be A Happier Writer (Part 3)

  1. Don’t offend.
  2. Don’t pretend.
  3. Don’t quarrel.
  4. Don’t ramble.
  5. Don’t regret.
  6. Don’t slack.
  7. Don’t stop.
  8. Don’t tolerate.
  9. Don’t upset.
  10. Don’t victimize.
  11. Don’t wait.
  12. Don’t (e)xcuse.
  13. Don’t yield.
  14. Don’t zing.